Jamming on Male and Female friendships

Nothing is better then being in your undies and workout tank completely jamming out to the most amazing mash ups. Seriously I want to jump on my bed to dance and sing into my hairbrush! I am such a professional right?! So far this week has had so many emotions that today I just told those emotions to take a back seat and shut the F up.

I decided that my race in Washington will probably be my last one for a while. I love getting out and running 1-3 miles after a good workout, but these 10 mile runs have been completely draining me and has taken the fun of running away. I dread these long mile run because I know it will take a few hours of my day to dedicate. I still would like to do the Disney princess half but that will be a long time from now.

I also let some thoughts take over and for a minute I forgot the good some friends bring to me. I am always waiting to get hurt. It is like wearing winter clothes in the summer because you know eventually it will get cold. The best friendships in the world are the ones that bring something to the positive to the table every time. One relationship I have with a male has been criticized and some of what people say should be right. Male and female friendships generally do not work. Statistics have said there are 3 types of male and female interactions.

1. Male leads female on
2. Female leads Male on
3. Happily ever after (true love to the moon and back type stuff)

Really think about it....Every boyfriend that I have not dumped has lead me on. It's happened to everyone. You are so in love with this dude, but he loves this other chick. He keeps you in the friend zone almost as a back up in case he can't get what he really wants. I call it the love from afar syndrome. Your always close but so far away. I see it happen all the time with girls and guys. I can honestly say though that male and female friendships can exist. You just have to have your mind and heart in the right place. Every girl needs a dude to tell her what's up in a guys mind. Tell us when we need to calm the F down and chill out, quit being crazy (because lets face it we are all crazy), and to be that non bias opinion that we desperately need.

I am married and have great male friends in my life. If I need advice with my marriage or motivation for my goals I know exactly who to call. If there is a chance in a hell that a fight I have caused is my fault I consult those guys. If they tell me I am in the wrong and they totally will, I know that I messed up and an apology is in order. One friend I have had since high school and we come and go out of each others lives but I love that guy. I care what happens to him, his family, his animals, and I want what is the absolute best for him. There is such a stigma though. I tell my female friends I love them ALL the time (at least once a day), because I do love them. Not in a '' let's get married and make babies'' type of way but I care about them. They are in my heart, mind, and soul and to me that is what love is. You bet your sweet ass though if I were to tell a man friend that I loved them I would be going to hell...like I am an adulteress whore or something. So for the safety of myself...I like my man friends a lot!! No one beats my husband ever. period. He holds all the cards. He knows me inside and out, has been there for the good and bad, has held my hand and helped me when I wanted to disappear or die. No man ever will do what he has done. He saved my life and I have no idea where I would be without him. I am just in a different stage in my life. I need and want to surround myself with people who better me and I want to be very clear...any friend male or female that can stick through my crazy mood swings, hurt feelings, and family issues is a flipping saint!

So here is a sweet tea cheers for all the males and females who make their amazing friendships work without bumping and grinding :) If I were a pot smoker I would say "Love everyone man" in a cheech and chong kind of way. Be a legit friend.

conclusion: despite statistics male and female friendships can work. You have to be vocal, have boundaries, and respect one another.